Compromise. It’s like the bedrock of a relationship and a subset of the big one – Communication.
I came across this video on Facebook a while back and it made me pause and reflect. Listen to Ms Eartha Kitt and her wisdom.
Now, sometimes her words can’t be comprehended because it hasn’t personally been felt. But let me break it down.
Compromise. Not saying that you don’t and shouldn’t compromise inside of a relationship. But saying that you shouldn’t compromise YOURSELF inside of a relationship.
This was me in the past, losing myself – compromising MYSELF in order to stay in a relationship. There finally came a point in time where I’d had enough. I wanted to live authentically. I wanted to be ME again. I couldn’t make ME work inside of the marriage, I didn’t fit. That ended up being another reason behind my divorce.
The other day my daughter asked me if I was going to get married again. After I wiped my reaction off my face (my face is a horrible liar), I gave her an “I don’t think so” – the neutral response. Honestly, I’m just happy to be myself again, marriage isn’t even on the radar right now.
Lessons are to be learned and boy did I learn them. If, and when a post-divorce relationship happens, I’ll be sharing ME with them 💯. The me that I’ve fallen back in love with. I’ve come too far; for me, it’s authenticity over approval.